Self Compassion and Nourishing Connection

“You can only meet others as deeply as you have met yourself.” – Matt Kahn

Do you agree?

I have learned the deeper we have explored ourselves, the more healing, understanding, compassion, humility, and connection we cultivate. True well-being unfolds, bringing more moments of seeing and meeting our selves at the core.

Until then, we may find ourselves struggling—ignoring, resisting, repelling, or repeating difficult situations. So, go deeper to heal better.

Healing transforms our mental and emotional well-being—we think better, feel better, live better, and naturally show up better in service to others.

How do you begin to meet yourself at a deeper level?

Look at your relationships.

Relationships—especially the challenging ones—are mirrors.

They reflect your depth of self-awareness, your wounds that may still need addressing, your capacity for compassion, and your ability to hold space without losing yourself.

If you find yourself reacting strongly, feeling triggered, or struggling to stay present with someone, it often points to something within you that hasn’t been fully met yet.

The more deeply you’ve met yourself—the more you’ve sat with your fears, insecurities, and emotions without resistance—the more you can meet others with patience, understanding, and love.

How do you find yourself when you are faced with conflicts?

Deep inner work happen in connection. It’s in moments of tension that our growth is revealed. With growth, deeper healing comes and there arises true mental well-being and resilience.

So turn inward—meet yourself in your struggles with humility, compassion, and deep, intentional presence.

Only from this space can you recognize your ability to meet and connect with others who are navigating their own challenges. By first meeting yourself—honestly and wholeheartedly—you create the capacity for true connection, understanding, and love. Until then, your view may be that it is you against the world.

If you have not met your own fears, wounds, and joys with humility and compassion, it becomes difficult to offer the same to another.

So, how do you begin this deeper inner work?

Pause and Reflect.

Here are five questions to start with:

1.What feelings have I avoided facing, and what would it take for me to meet my emotions with compassion?

2. How does my inner dialogue show up in my relationships and interactions with others?

3. What ideas or fears do I still struggle to accept within myself?

4. What is the story I keep telling myself about life, and is that serving me well?

5. What would it feel like, look like to release the angst and accept what is?

The depth to which we have faced, understood, and embraced ourselves in difficult moments shapes our ability to hold space for others. Imagine what incredible possibilities there would be when more of us are able to do so

Go deeper. Be truly well.

xo

Glenda